Top Tips for Busy Bis

Top Ten Time Management Tips for Busy Bisexuals

Whether you identify as monogamous, non-monogamous or polyamorous, finding time to fit everything and everyone in (no smutty jokes please!)  (Awww, but they’re the only ones I’ve got – Ed) can be overwhelming at times.  With pressures from family, partners, lovers, friends, work and more, to give them your time, it can feel a little overwhelming.

So, here are my top ten tips to managing your time.

1.    Know yourself – know what is important to you, what you want from life in general.  If you don’t know what you want, how can you let others know?
2.    Structure – there are some things that can’t be avoided for long.  Sleep and food are two of these, others may be family, work or partners.  If these things need to happen regularly, then you have the basis for a structure into which you can slot in your essentials and leave gaps for the non-essential bits.  Don’t forget to leave some flexibility.
3.    Prioritise – if you have a choice of activities, you need to prioritise them.  Beware! Don’t forget there are short-, mid- and long-tem activities.  You might not go to the dentist every week, but if you don’t go on a regular basis, your mouth won’t be very happy!
4.    Write it down – if you have something visual to look at, it can be easier to remember and easier to share with others.  A diary (written or online), post-it notes or wiki are some of the ways of doing this.
5.    Know your limitations – we all have different limits both emotionally and physically.  If you know you can’t go for 24 hours without sleep, then make sure you schedule in enough time for you to sleep.  If you know that you are coming up to an
emotionally demanding time, make allowances for it.
6.    Be practical – much as you might like to have an unlimited supply of money, time and teleportation devices, the reality is, that you probably don’t.  If you have 2 hours of things to do to fit in 10 minutes, you may have to consider whether it is practical to do that.
7.    Communicate – talk to the people involved in your life, negotiate, let the relevant people know what you are doing.
8.    Be aware of the impact you have – good or bad. Your decisions, your actions, will have an impact on other people.  Be aware of potential consequences.  If you didn’t see your partner(s) for weeks on end, what would the consequences of that be?
9.    Learn to say no – you can’t do everything (even if you want to!).  Sometimes taking up one opportunity, means saying no to another.  If you know what your priorities are, what you want, this can make it easier to say no.
Last, but certainly not least…
10.    …make time for yourself – you are important!  You need rest!  Value your own time.If you don’t take care of yourself, how are you going to have the time and energy to give to other people?

Sanji is conducting a small scale research project on time management in non-monogamous relationships.  If you want to take part, please can you email her on: [email protected]