Date With Disaster

TV show Blind Date featured its first ever bi “picker” and panel of prospective bi dates in May.

The show – once an ITV prime time highlight starring Cilla Black but now on Channel 5 – involves a ‘picker’ selecting from three potential dates hidden behind a curtain, using only the power of “do I like their voice?” and “how well do they speak carefully rehearsed answers to my equally rehearsed questions?” to decide who to be matched with.

Once one lucky datee has been picked, the curtain rolls back, our picker meets the two people they turned down and the one they are to be sent off on a date somewhere in the world promising fun, romance, and a camera crew following your every move.

Later the couple return to the show to reveal how things went and each reveals whether they hope to go on a second date, become friends, or never meet again. Ideally they both have the same option in mind.
This time the outcome was two guys being sent away to get romantic.

Unfortunately, the chosen romantic break was to Saint Lucia. It’s not a great place for two guys. The UK government website’s travel guidance about it says:

“Local attitudes towards the LGBT community are mostly conservative throughout the Caribbean.
“Public displays of affection (such as hand-holding or kissing) between opposite or same-sex couples are uncommon.
“Certain homosexual acts are illegal. LGBT travellers should be mindful of local attitudes and be aware that public displays of affection may attract unwanted and negative attention.”

A week later the lads are back on the show to tell us whether love blossomed: it was great TV but carefully didn’t mention anything about the local social and legal problems.

With a lineup of two women and one man maybe the show producers thought the odds were in favour of a mixed-gender couple break being what was called for. But it does all feel at best awkward. At the least you’ll hope the producers of the show will learn a lesson for next time…


BCN issue 155 coverThis originally appeared in

Bi Community News issue 155

Published July/August 2019.


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